"If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?"
I don't know which woman coined the phrase, but, I sure would like to shake the gal's hand. Because, boy oh boy is there truth in that question!
Whether you're hooking up or settling down, more often than not, there's a lover looming in the background. In a city where the span of a relationship can sometimes fall shorter than a seasonal trend, or, drag out longer than this season's Housewives of New Jersey, trying to find a happy balance is no easy feat.
When you finally find Mr. Now, how do you make it last? More importantly, how do you know if it's even worth lasting? Questions most of us find ourselves asking when we're already knee-deep in like/love. By that time, it's nearly impossible to differentiate thoughts from the heart with thoughts from the head.
Take Tionna Smalls. So fluent in the language of love, she gets paid an impressive amount of coin to write about women finding their own Mr. Right. She believes that no man has no worth if you've yet to discover your own. If you're a brilliant and brassy broad like Portia "CocoDivalicious", then you're sure that your lover must discover you -flaws and all, from the very inception of love's blossoming. So help you God if your partners resemble my casualties, any way, shape, or form. Gaga's like me are so wrapped up in our lives, our adventures, our self-discovery tours, tending to relationships we've already established (family, friends, co-workers, probation officers, etc.), hooking up or settling down is way off our radar.
Your lover, your live-in, your, partner, your guy, your crush. There's so many different varieties to like/lust/sex/love that we'd be crazy not to feature the topic on She's So New York. Expect to find women on our upcoming website to be real and honest about who they love and how they love them. In the end, it's about learning how to truly grow and benefit from the love of another, while giving the best parts of you, while keeping that most precious part to yourself. If you can find a way to relate and love with another, then, relationships are lovely.
***Are you currently involved in a long distance relationship? Are you a person with a live-in lover who's got something to say? Have you moved to a different state to be with the one you love? Write to us and let us know your story! ShesSoNewYork.com (late-summer 2010)... Striving To Inform And Inspire, Just By Being Here: walkergordonproductions@gmail.com***
Tamela J. Gordon
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