Even if you haven't had a child, we've all been there. You overanalyze and focus on problem areas that may or may not exist all while taking a peek at your mate or spouse and wondering "Do I even turn him/her on anymore?" It's disheartning feeling less than your best, not to mention when you don't have time to get the baby off your chest long enough to put actual thought into it.
It's Sex Week here at She's So New York, and we encourage our women to feel sexy, walk sexy, BE SEXY - no matter if they have one child or five! No one should know you have a child unless there's a pint sized loud mouth calling you "Mommy" at the top of their lungs. Here are 5 tips given from a mother of two who knows a little about the "Sexy Struggle,":
1. Instead of focusing on the stretch marks you've acquired during pregnancy, focus on other areas of your body that you just ADORE. Use those factors that make you feel good about yourself to your advantage! If it's your arms you love, coordinate confident and sexy (remember to keep it classy when necessary!) pieces to accenuate. If it's those legs, find dresses, skirts, rompers (a summer must-have!) to show off those gams. If its your eyes, experiment with makeup; give yourself the positive attention you deserve! And if it's those newly acquired (ahem) breasts (that you secretly thank your baby for); incorporate showing off that amazing cleavage with halters, scoop neck tees, and more! You earned those puppies, give em a spin! Eventually, you'll care less about your "survivor scars" and more on getting the guys and gals to notice you in all your sexy splendor. When you feel sexy, your partner will appreciate your confidence and want you that much more!
2. While you're out there shopping, invest in lingerie and other sexy items (toys, candles, etc.) that can help spice up the bedroom or any other place you decide to get it swinging. The touch of cashmere and lace against your bare skin is instamatic sex appeal. Lingerie and sex toys can make a woman feel uninibited, unafraid and eager to have as much fun with their partners as possible. Be open to the possibilities that these purchases can bring!
3. If you're in a relationship or married, spend as much time getting to know your mate again. We all know that children are unpredictable, but when they are sleeping and/or on a schedule, use that time to whisper sweet nothings in each other's ears, flirt, and have old school make out sessions. If your kids are older, let them know that its "Mommy and Daddy" time. Show your guy or gal what they're missing! If you're not ready or don't have enough time to be completely intimate, use other methods to profess intimacy and sexual desire.!
4. If you're fortunuate to score a babysitter, TAKE ADVANTAGE! Go out to dinner, see a movie - things you used to do BEFORE kids came along. Reminice (and maybe re-enact!) old things that made you two giddy with excitement. Share over a glass of wine or whatever you love to drink (F.Y.I. After four hours, you can breast feed again, enjoy that glass girl!) and enjoy each other. It's important to remind each other of why you fell in love in the first place!
5. While some might say that it isn't important, sex DOES keep the love and fire burning. The worse thing that a mother can do is stop living for herself and taking care of her sexual needs and desires. We are not immune to a sexual appetite once we have kids! Be creative and maybe you just might fall in love all over again!
Mrs. Walker
Got any tips you want to share with our fellow mothers? Send them our way at walkergordonproductions@gmail.com
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