Tuesday, June 8, 2010

What She Says: "Proud to Be Single"

She's So New York just loves featuring writers who capture the soul and vivacity of the SSNY woman! Today we feature Radannsun and her "Proud to Be Single" post!


It's hard sometimes, isn't it? Going through your everyday life and constantly seeing those couples walking along, hand-in-hand, smiling that sickly sweet smile that just makes you want to walk up and slap it off their faces. Being single is certainly an acquired taste, but it can be enjoyable after awhile. Just think: how many of those couples you saw strolling through the mall the other day are still going to be happy and together a week from now? That in itself is cause to celebrate your single status.

The Perks
Seeing as how I'm female, this will all be coming from a female point of view. Sorry boys. A single woman has the freedom that others do not. There are no obligatory meetings with the boyfriend, no arguments over where and how to spend your weekends, and no one pressuring her into levels of intimacy she doesn't want to dip into just yet. There is no better time to discover yourself than when you're single and living on your own. No outside influences are guiding your decisions or your preferences. Or, at the very least, there are fewer outside influences controlling your life.

It's also nice to walk into a public place and flirt with a few hot guys without having to worry if he or one of his friends will see you. (Yes, I will admit that I'm a horrible flirt, though, for the record, I've never cheated.) You can pig out on ice cream and not feel quite as guilty. Your night life is rife with variety and opportunities. Plus, when the right guy comes along, it's ten times easier to start into a healthy relationship if you're single at the time.

The Reasons
Frankly, I don't like the way the dating game has changed. What is this boyfriend/girlfriend thing, anyway? I mean, half the time a guy doesn't ask me out anymore. He asks me if I 'want to be [his] girlfriend'. What? Without even one date? You've got to be kidding me.

Worse are the boys who come up - bear in mind that I've never seen them before - and state, without preamble, "You're hot. Want to go out?" Let me tell you something. No woman in their right mind is going to go out with someone who doesn't even know their name! I'm not looking for a one-night stand. He can find one of the loose girls that this worked with before, or just cut to the chase and hire a prostitute.

Let's face it. If you really wanted someone to hold you, or kiss you, or a free meal, you could find someone. It's not that hard. Those of us who remain single do so not because we couldn't have a relationship. We're single because we haven't found the relationship we want yet.

So, if you're single, don't be depressed about it. You should be proud that you haven't bought into the crap the world is selling you. And keep your standards high. In the end, you're going to be the one that everyone envies, not the other way around.

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1 comment:

  1. YEssssssssssssss Thank u thank u thank Radannsun for that Wonderful post!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't have said it better myself!!!!! I'm proud of my single status with out a doubt!