Some of us use sex as a coping mechanism, much like some use food. We've even all made the mistake a time or two, confusing sex and love, and praying that they can co-exist with one special person - usually the exact opposite occurs.
Some use sex as a measure of sensuality and inner sexuality, a means of declaring that they are what sex is supposed to be: liberating, engaging, special, sexy, wild and crazy. We can be whoever we want to be once the lights go off (or on if you're nasty!). The idea of shedding our "former" selves to indulge in our fantasies? Who doesn't love sex for those reasons? Once our clothes come back on, we are back to our normal lives, sprinkled with smiles of remembering naughty escapades. Those memories mean something to us, even when we've surpassed those parts of our lives.
But what some fail to realize and much like Tamela covered - the act of sex does not determine your sexiness. Sensuality and sex may meet somewhere down the middle, but they are not in any way
related. To be a woman IS sensuality. We move with fluid-like motions effortlessly and sometimes absentmindedly, without noticing the salivating stares men and women give when they see us walk. The shapes of our bodies are like cursive letters come to life: We are poetry in motion! The real beauty in a woman doesn't come from clothes or even the sense of style itself. Its in who we are, bare naked - not at all on a physical level but on the mental and emotional. Our swagger; the way a woman can express herself with her body is magical. We captivate and intrigue men and women with pouty lips, seductive eyes, and throaty laughs; making their blood pressure (and other things) rise all without breaking a sweat. Sex, much like living is learned. We make mistakes along the way - lots of them. But the mistakes, if we absorb them for the experiences that they are, can shape us. It can determine what we want for ourselves without second guessing and wasting time on the people who cannot give us what we're looking for. That independence is freeing. Sex in the NYC is much like sex anywhere else, but for us it's much much more.
Photo Courtesy of Khayyam Omar Photography, Model: Shaquoia T. Lanier
We will continue to cover S-E-X when the official launch of She's So New York arrives late summer. Until then, we're asking: Do you have a fetish? Are you into anything that may be considered taboo? Are you addicted to sex? Any threesome experiences? Experiences you'd like to forget? (who doesn't?) We're looking for REAL stories from the REAL women living, loving and sexing in NYC. Send your entries to walkergordonproductions@gmail.com!
