As promised, She's So New York is informing and inspiring us all by sharing stories from real women who are bold enough to live life by their rules, and look good doing it!
In keeping up with that spirit, we're finally ready to show off Rhonda! The spunky, Queens native - thespian who's doing her part to give as much of herself to this city as she's getting from it. Involved in a loving, five year relationship with her girlfriend, Rhonda's got plenty to say about how to approach finding "the one", and, how to keep the love going strong once you've got them. (Shout out to all Queens thespians, seeing as how myself and Portia Walker majored in theater at HILLCREST HIGH IN JAMAICA, QUEENS!),
Welcome to my first entry for this Bombshell Blog She’s So New York! The wonderful staff at SSNY has asked me to contribute, and, I'm honored to let you in on everything I think and enjoy in New York City. I'm a born and raised Queens Lady, but trust, I'm perpetually immersed in the treasure chest that New York has to offer. It's important to soak up every bit of diversity pouring out of every seam here in NYC.
The topic this week is Relationships, an important bond for our development as men and women in society. In New York City, the challenge to find a suitable mate can be daunting. If you're looking for a lasting relationship, the search can become discouraging. Is it because we want the ‘perfect’ one? Listen, there's standards we set for the “perfect one” , that are sometimes higher than we (the mate hunter) can even aspire to! GET REAL. Look at the heart and character of a lover. Money, looks and charm may equal amazing getaways and tons of toe curling ‘release’… but where's the substance that withstands years of disappointments, pain ,and other traumas that cripple our faith in life? I've been with the same woman for five years. We've have had hard times, disagreements, and countless tests of courage that could have broken our bond. So far, we're making it work. Laughter serves as the ‘Neosporin’ along the way.
All Relationships are work, and oh *Ru Paul Voice* You Betta Work! The people we love are powerful mirrors into the deepest parts of ourselves that we may ignore or have forgotten. There will be things about you that you'll see in your mate that infuriates you, amazes you and/or teaches you. They are all a part of learning to fully love each other and ourselves. I used to think I was God’s Gift to relationships because I gave advice to struggling loved ones. Real love will smash that delusion real quick! *News Flash* - It’s a partnership and we are only as great as the positivity we create on a daily basis. That's the gift we need to cash in on. To spread light and joy as much as we can. We can only hope the good we do to return to us and enrich our lives in all areas. When we let go of pain and animosity, blessings have room to bloom in our relationships.
We need to ‘pack light’ for the never-ending journey ahead. I have learned so much about myself thanks to the commitment I made to my partner. There will definitely be more trials to come, but, I believe we can take it on together. Lastly, for those that don't regard same sex relationships as "bonafide" commitments, look past the gender and uncover the common denominator that is LOVE.
With an Open Heart,
Rhonda
In keeping up with that spirit, we're finally ready to show off Rhonda! The spunky, Queens native - thespian who's doing her part to give as much of herself to this city as she's getting from it. Involved in a loving, five year relationship with her girlfriend, Rhonda's got plenty to say about how to approach finding "the one", and, how to keep the love going strong once you've got them. (Shout out to all Queens thespians, seeing as how myself and Portia Walker majored in theater at HILLCREST HIGH IN JAMAICA, QUEENS!),
Welcome to my first entry for this Bombshell Blog She’s So New York! The wonderful staff at SSNY has asked me to contribute, and, I'm honored to let you in on everything I think and enjoy in New York City. I'm a born and raised Queens Lady, but trust, I'm perpetually immersed in the treasure chest that New York has to offer. It's important to soak up every bit of diversity pouring out of every seam here in NYC.
The topic this week is Relationships, an important bond for our development as men and women in society. In New York City, the challenge to find a suitable mate can be daunting. If you're looking for a lasting relationship, the search can become discouraging. Is it because we want the ‘perfect’ one? Listen, there's standards we set for the “perfect one” , that are sometimes higher than we (the mate hunter) can even aspire to! GET REAL. Look at the heart and character of a lover. Money, looks and charm may equal amazing getaways and tons of toe curling ‘release’… but where's the substance that withstands years of disappointments, pain ,and other traumas that cripple our faith in life? I've been with the same woman for five years. We've have had hard times, disagreements, and countless tests of courage that could have broken our bond. So far, we're making it work. Laughter serves as the ‘Neosporin’ along the way.
All Relationships are work, and oh *Ru Paul Voice* You Betta Work! The people we love are powerful mirrors into the deepest parts of ourselves that we may ignore or have forgotten. There will be things about you that you'll see in your mate that infuriates you, amazes you and/or teaches you. They are all a part of learning to fully love each other and ourselves. I used to think I was God’s Gift to relationships because I gave advice to struggling loved ones. Real love will smash that delusion real quick! *News Flash* - It’s a partnership and we are only as great as the positivity we create on a daily basis. That's the gift we need to cash in on. To spread light and joy as much as we can. We can only hope the good we do to return to us and enrich our lives in all areas. When we let go of pain and animosity, blessings have room to bloom in our relationships.
We need to ‘pack light’ for the never-ending journey ahead. I have learned so much about myself thanks to the commitment I made to my partner. There will definitely be more trials to come, but, I believe we can take it on together. Lastly, for those that don't regard same sex relationships as "bonafide" commitments, look past the gender and uncover the common denominator that is LOVE.
With an Open Heart,
Rhonda
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